We are also experiencing IWD through a privileged lens. The reported death rates of women rarely, if ever, include Indigenous women. Rarely, if ever, include trans women. If we are frustrated that the judicial system focuses on what women are doing wrong, and that it's women who are to take responsibility solely for their social safety and status, their plight for fair pay, then we can only imagine what it's like for the further silenced.
With that, and all that is going on in the world right now currently taking up real estate in our minds, hearts and mental health, is that we make more small but deliberate decisions in our interactions, choices and against natural bias.
Our experience sees women being dismissed at the table. We see typically ‘masculine’ traits garner some praise and respect, but our typically ‘feminine’ traits (or, perceived potential responses) being condensed to weakness.
We may decide to have cupcakes (pink ones even), because we do really like cake. We may decide to put a spotlight on the incredible work the women of Zimple do, and the amazing female business owners we are thrilled to have as clients. We may even decide to have a craft beer or two. But, when we all sat down to talk about what the day really means to us (what we really want, what we see in our industry and lives) we each drew on nuanced, everyday things that truly charge change.
For men and women, we only ask this: when you see a natural bias skew you towards downgrading the integrity of a woman in front of you, take pause. Reconsider your assumptions on talent, or gumption, based on gender (or, anything other than who the person in front of you is, as an individual).
Don’t speak over us. Speak up when someone does.
Don’t make unwarranted suggestive remarks. Ever. But especially in our professional spaces.
Don’t go over our heads.
DO listen.
DO see that these statistics aren’t annoying complaints. They are data (and we LOVE data).
DO see that everyone, including us, can always do better. It is a group effort.
Only in these moments, and changing course, might we see a macro change with micro actions. We also ask that it linger longer than one day.
We are not grateful for the incredible workplace we have, nor our equally incredible clients. We are expectant of equal treatment, as all women should be.
Break the bias.
Our last note is to solidify the ‘every day’ of International Women’s Day, with our favourite charities who dedicate themselves to the every day and whom we can help support all year round.
Lani supports:
Coast Shelter
Got Your Back Sista
Ana supports:
Nova for Women and Children
Sarah supports:
Jenny’s Place
Kate supports:
Dress for Success
Rikki supports:
Share the Dignity
Gunawirra